Between the time spent meeting new people, and the one spent with the dear ones, it is healthy to regularly take a time of self-reflection. Somehow, reflection is a way of impressing the mind with lessons from the heart, helping us take leaps of faith and more reliable jumps forward.
Here are five personal lessons we learn as we cross to the second half of the enriching 20s:
1– Wherever you go, take 50% of your own beliefs and rules, and leave the other 50 open for new ones:
Every time you sit at a table, don’t expect the rules to be yours, or close to that, even if you were fully convinced that you rock. You would live happier when you expect the things won’t be the way you like.
2– When dealing with people, try to understand their background, because we are the outcome of our experiences and backgrounds. The school, the family, the the culture, the countries we lived in, the jobs we took, the people we dated. Our present is a mere illustration of the above, drawn together, and put to new experiments every day. How could you even understand them without knowing where they come from.
3– Not everything needs to have an explanation: sometimes a smile can avoid you the headache of going down the road of an unwanted conversation. Elaborate on things only when people in front of you look like they’re ready to listen and adopt a new perspective. In other terms, a door that leads nowhere, no need to open it.
4– Showing vulnerability is the best way to people hearts: No need to act dumb if you’re not. But there are certainly areas where you have absolutely no insight. Leveraging this vulnerability to allow the other to feel savvy in front of you can be the key to their hearts. Put yourself in their shoes; whether an introvert or an extrovert, it would feel good to brag about what they know. And they will love you for that.
5– Everyone has their insecurities: Whether it’s your superior at work, the president of the United States, or your professor at school. What does that mean?
One, it means that we need to understand when others become defensive or mean, because every bad behavior out there stems from an underlying insecurity in the head. Having this idea in mind could help you be more understanding and tolerant to friends, parents, partners, and colleagues at work.
Two, it also means that no one must be idolized. We’re all on the same boat, whether highly achieved or not, rich or not, famous or not.
So as much as sticking this concept in your daily life makes you tolerant, it also makes you immune to the pitfalls of the society and its standards, allowing you to see people just as people, not Gods.
Long story short, glorify no one, hate no one.